there doesn't seem to be any resolution insight tbh ...but hey ho
surely every self respecting decent member of society would choose to work if they could right!?? However the issue seems to be less straight forward when applying it to mothers ... in particular single mothers.
If I were to stay at home and be a 'full-time' mummy then im a scrounger, scum of the earth, Jeremy Kyle type who clearly only got inpregnated in order to live a comfy life off of benefits, while watching day time tv on my massive hd tv and counting my masses of tax payer cash (Pahahaha I wish), yet on the other hand if I go back to work full-time then im a cold, heartless monster, who clearly can't wait to palm my child off onto someone else! Seems a little black and white I know ...but don't tell me you havn't heard these opinions yourself on numerous occassions (or even hold them yourself)?
Of course it's true that some people do abuse the system, it's a sad fact that many people just see it as a way of life ...however it is not fair to assume it of everyone who claims benefits. Similarly im sure there are some evil career women out there who don't give a toss about their kids (however im yet to meet one) but it does not mean that a mother doesn't care about her child if she chooses to go back to work.
I love being at home with my little superhero every day ....but kind of relish in the fact that a couple of evenings a week I can go to work and speak to adults! Im pretty happy with the balance i've got right now ... but I still feel that pang of guilt whenever I admit that I claim some benefits. I don't know if this is a good thing or not to feel that way :s but I'm pretty confident I won't be relying on state help forever, the time will come when I will go back to work full-time. So yeh .... you miserable gits can moan about us benefits claimants being the soul cause for global econonmic crisis all you like ... i'm off to go give the brand new beemer a clean lol!! :p
Love Love xxx
How Blake made me laugh today: well other than the green paint incident, there was the trail of piddle that I discovered down the entire length of my hall way today. How can one little bladder hold that much wee??? hmmmmm :s x
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so i'm still confuzzled, are u going back to work or not
ReplyDeleteand if u work would u get more money so u can blake more chocolate buttons and jam sandwiches
ReplyDeletenot just yet ... going to stick with working part time. Which is bound to leave me open to criticism from someone lol!
ReplyDeleteBlake has plenty of chocolate buttons and jam sandwiches dont worry :p x
I do like your posts always a good read! I would never say your a heartless mother you just want what is best for you little man xx
ReplyDeleteHI Leanne,
ReplyDeleteFound your blog thur Netmums Blogger Network and now following.
I was in a similiar position several years ago.
I was a single parent of 2 children.
I worked part time. By working part time I felt I was contributing but also being there for my kids which is just as important.
I believe it is having a balance and those early years are important.
Like you say it wont be forever. You could maybe increase to full time when your little one is at full time school.
At the moment,things are different. I am a SAHM (with a working partner) until my youngest (3) goes to full time school, then I will go part time again.
carol
Thanks for taking the time to read my blog carol :) It's nice to hear from people who share a similar perspective :) x
ReplyDeleteHello! Found your blog through Netmums & this really made me think of my own situation, my boy is 16 months and I've just gone back to work part time, and find every morning leaving him so sad :( It's so hard to find the right balance!x
ReplyDeleteCelia, It is so hard to leave them... my little boy also likes to make it even harder by doing the puppy dog eyes and crying routine :( he soon gets over it though apparently lol! All we can do is our best though I guess! :) xx
ReplyDeletep.s thanks for taking the time to read my blog! x